Once bullying is reported to the school, state anti-bullying laws may require a specific process of investigation and action.
Ask for updates on this process in writing. Monitor what actions the school takes. If the bullying continues, document any new incidents. As always, make sure you connect with and comfort your child during this time. If bullying is still going on two weeks after you first reported it, contact the school district superintendent both by phone and in writing.
You may want to also write to the Board of Education. Ask for help with ending the bullying. Save any responses. If there are no still no changes, reach out to your state department of education. The state may have staff that will investigate bullying. Your local Parent Training Information Center may be able to give advice, too.
You can also go to the U. The OCR protects public school students with disabilities from discrimination. You can file an OCR complaint about the bullying. If bullying is still happening, contact a lawyer. Podcast Wunder community app. Main menu Our work Blog Surveys and research. That is wrong! You shouldn't tell the good child to change their personality to be able to defend against the bullies. The victim is doing no wrong. That's exactly like telling a girl to dress different so as to not get raped.
You, parents, need to deal with the bullies' parents and other authority to get help for the bullies' problems, which clearly they have. Certainly always talk to your kids about what's going on in their lives, and when they tell you they're being bullied, you deal with it! Obviously if every parent was teaching there kids not to bully, we would need this article. There are kids who are in foster care systems, are abused or neglected at home, or just do not have a good support system which causes them to be bullies.
Teaching your kids do be proactive and reactive to possible bullying is not wrong. Please stop spreading ignorance and if you do not like the article, do not read it. It takes empathy to realize everyone's lives are different from your own. That's not the point, you can't show your kids that revenge is the way to go. The one thing you didn't mention was what happens when a girl starts to bully a boy because she knows she can and won't face the same response as what "Could" happen if it were a boy to boy confrontation?
Multiple issues are a factor when this happens, the boy doesn't know how to react. With a boy to boy intimidation could work, telling on his could work, just about everything you stated above could work, but do you think that boy will tell ANYONE if he is being bullied by a girl?
Probably not. If that boy is teased enough when she knows she can keep doing it and he flips out and does something violent, guess who gets into all the trouble? The boy. I've seen this time, and time again over the last 30 years. Perhaps people should start having this conversation in a world struggling for equal rights among the sexes. This is completely ridiculous! How about putting all the bullies in one room by themeselves instead of keeping them with the other kids?
There should be a mandetory class for all kids on anti-bullying and how to treat people. Too many teachers, parents, and educators turn a blind eye to the reality and gravity of what bullying can do even when you see all of the tragic cases out there.
The problem in this society that has been a problem for more than 60 years and it just keeps getting worse by the minute. Save Pin FB More. Credit: Illustration by Emma Darvick. The first step to dealing with bullies is knowing when your child is a victim. Don't let a bully make you feel bad. When someone says something bad about you, say something positive to yourself.
Remind yourself of your positive attributes. Tell the bully how you feel , why you feel the way you do, and what you want the bully to do. Learn to do this with a calm and determined voice. Say, for example, "I feel angry when you call me names because I have a real name. I want you to start calling me by my real name.
The bully wants to hurt your feelings, so act like his name-calling and taunts don't hurt. You can do this by admitting the bully is right. For example, when the bully calls you "fatty," look him in the eye and say calmly, "You know, I do need to start getting more exercise. Disarm the bully with humor. Laugh at his threats and walk away from him. Use your best judgment, and follow your instincts. If the bully wants your homework , and you think he is about to hurt you, give him your work and walk off with confidence.
Our website uses a free tool to translate into other languages. This tool is a guide and may not be accurate. For more, see: Information in your language. You may be trying to access this site from a secured browser on the server. Please enable scripts and reload this page. Skip to content. Page Content. Keep your child safe You should contact the school immediately if your child's safety is at risk.
Talk with your child Encourage your child to talk about what happened. Encourage your child to: try to act unimpressed or unaffected use other strategies to diffuse the situation e.
Practise some strategies at home with your child to help them to: stand and walk in a way that appears more confident give a quick reply to surprise or disarm the other child use a routine response e. Talk about what we know doesn't work with bullying: fighting back bullying the bully ignoring it playing with a different group of friends remaining silent about the problem. Talk to your child about the tips and advice offered on the student section of this website. Say no to fighting Do not advise your child to fight with the other child.
Seek help for your child Seek help for your child to recover from and understand the bullying incidents and give them the chance to improve their social skills.
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